Most of us know that by putting our talent on display, at some point, we are going to have to deal with criticism, be it constructive, or otherwise. We may prepare ourselves for it, think about it, let it affect us or not, but it is just a natural consequence of showing of one’s talent publicly. However, do we give as much thought to being ready to accept the compliments that come our way?
If you give a performance, or show your talent in other ways, it is very likely that you will receive compliments for your work. Friends, family members, and even strangers may be eager to tell you that they liked what they saw or heard, and they should be telling you this! So how do you receive these positive affirmations from others?
The simplest way to receive a compliment is with honesty and grace. If someone compliments you, look them directly in the eye and genuinely thank them. Your response can be as simple as “thank you very much,” but the important thing is that you take the time to honestly thank them for the compliment.
What if you receive a compliment for a performance that you were not pleased with? How then, do you accept the compliment? Above all do not reject the compliment or make excuses for your performance by pointing out your mistakes. A simple and sincere “thank you” will suffice. You must realize that at this point your performance is over, and what is really important, is the individual who has taken the time to approach you and let you know they appreciated what you did. Any effort to reject or minimize the compliment will simply leave them confused and feeling as if they were not heard.
Most seasoned performers are very good at accepting compliments. Learn from the pros! Observe professionals in your talent field, see how they accept compliments and try to mimic what you liked about their responses. Professionals have had plenty of practice.
If you still have difficulty, choose one of the following phrases, and be ready to deliver it at your next opportunity:
Thank you so very much.
Thank you, that is very kind of you.
Thank you, I appreciate you telling me that.
Thanks, that means a lot to me.
Work on your reaction to compliments. Be ready for your next compliment and receive it graciously. You will be glad you did!